Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Sad News...

We lost our referral last week. The girls' birth mother came to the orphanage and came and got them. While I rejoice that they have been reunited with their birth mother, I am also heartbroken that they won't be our children. As much as we all tried not to get too attached to them, it was still difficult to accept. I have spent many hours daydreaming of them in our home, calling me mommy, running around our house like the other kids. I know that God's ways and reasons are beyond our understanding, and I actually take comfort in that with the knowledge that all things are done by him for the good and growth of God's kingdom.

...and we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose ~Romans 8:28


We are waiting for a new referral...

15 comments:

The Dixon Family Adoption~Join The Journey said...

I am so sorry for your loss of the referral for the girls. How your heart must be hurting and downcast. My eyes are filled with tears as I imagine how I would be feeling and reacting. This road is long and not easy but God is our strength. He is in control of all things.

I will pray for you and your family as you try to move forward. We have just begun our journey in adopting from Ethiopia. We have our HS and dossier done and are looking at a wait of 17-24 months. It seems crazy long and yet I know it is all in His hands.

Wishing I could take the pain away and make it all better. I will pray to the one who can.

I would hold onto the sweet baby dolls you purchased. Who knows what your next referral might be? :o)

Mamita J said...

Carla,

I am so sorry to hear this. Crying tears for you. You've been through so much already. I was going to comment on your last post about how my heart was still hurting for you...

Hold on to Hope. I'll be praying for you.

Julie

Anna Grace`s Jie Jie said...

Praying for you... It will all work out for God's perfect plan.

Mary Ann said...

Carla,
I am soooo sorry! Wow! I really don't know what to say other then God has the perfect child for you and maybe she just isn't ready yet.
I had alot of catching up to do. They last post I saw was the one of Josi's name in the sand. You have really gotten busy again with your blog! Ya! Happy belated birthday to all your sweeties! Looks like you all have staying busy and having lots of family fun!
Praying for you girl! ;0)

Please remember our family in your prayers too! We needs some miracles right now and lots of work sent our way! Karlton's business has crashed and we are getting ready to have to bankrupt.It is not a good time at all! :0(

Blessings

Mel said...

so very sorry to hear of this,
peace to your hearts-Mel

Kerri said...

I'm so very sorry for you all...

Paula said...

I'm sorry, Carla. How hard this must be for everyone in your family. I hope this journey ends for you soon with just the right child in your arms.

Amy Jo said...

Oh, Carla. I don't know what to say. My heart is grieving for you. You're right, this is a good things for the girls, and yet, I know, is a huge loss for you. I'm praying for you, Friend!

On our end, we were supposed to get M's referral finally this week...but his paperwork arrived on the previous orphanage's letterhead. Not sure where that leaves us, but we're still awaiting, as is our sweet boy.

Praying with you through this tumultuous journey.

BIG hug,
Amy

Bonnie said...

Carla, I am so very sorry for your loss. Your family has been through so much already. I will continue praying that the child(ren) that God has chosen for you are home and in your arms very soon.

ManyBlessings said...

Praying for you as you walk a different path.

Melanie said...

Carla, I couldn't believe what I read. You've already been thru so much already. I'm so sorry, and my heart goes out to you. Praying for you and sending a big hug from KY,
Mel

Black said...

I have started and deleted this reply so many times as I look for the right words--there are none. All I can say is that I am so very sorry for your pain.

My family lost a referral on our adoption journey as well. I know how painful this time can be and I pray you find your way through with hope. I hope that once you are home with your Ethiopian child(ren) that your tears of sorrow turn to tears of joy.

Alex and Sam said...

carla,
my heart sank when I read your post. its hard to think of anything to say other than I am so sorry & I will be praying for your family & hoping that you receive a new referral very soon.

hugs from NJ
alex

Stacey and Dewey said...

You and your family are in our hearts and prayers. Please keep us updated so we can join you in celebration of your new referral.
I am so sorry, stay strong.
Big hugs
Stacey

julie said...

I am so sorry. We lost our referral last month for a little girl and boy 5 and 7. They are now back with their father. I totally understand how you are feeling. ((Big Hugs)) I'll be praying God gives you comfort and a new referral very soon.